Why Porn is good for Society

This might come as a surprise but I thought I might give some insight as to why porn is good for our society. Christians constantly claim it has bad effects on the people viewing it and that it is destroying our society. But then can we really listen to a bunch of “fairy tale believing adults”? Porn is simply adult entertainment and adults have the right to access whatever it is they like. Also, internet pornography comes with an age verification process, thereby allowing for the protection of children from viewing adult material. That makes sense doesn’t it?

Adults do have the right to do with their lives as they please, however, statistics show that the average age of first exposure to pornography is 11 years old…11 years old! How effective is the age verification process if all you have to do is click “Yes, I am above 18” to view porn.  According to the ABC, children are viewing porn online as young as 6 years old.  Porn is addictive, yet unlike Cocaine it is legal in most countries. Adults should have the right to access what they please but in the case of drugs, we as a society don’t afford that right to people. Why? Because it destroys people and it has negative effects on society.

While there are many studies into the effects of childhood exposure to media violence, there is very little being done in the area of exposure to sexually explicit material; sex scenes in movies inclusive. Is it so important for adults to have their entertainment at the expense of children? Clearly, what is intended for adults is mostly being accessed by children and believe me, we have given way to a storm that will destroy our world in ways we never thought possible. Sex isn’t meant to be watched, but what we have done is taken private acts and made them public.

I am the face of a child whose first exposure to sex in the media was before age 11. It was a sex-scene in a movie. I have no idea who brought the movie into the house and I don’t think my parents even knew it was present. I had already been exposed to sex at the time and maybe that made me more curious, I don’t know and I won’t make excuses. I used to sometimes wait till no one was there or when everyone was asleep and put the movie on and fast forward to the one scene. At age 16 I viewed porn online and it left me feeling suicidal. I watched it again and again and believe me, it has ruined me in ways that most can never understand. What is the real cost of adult entertainment? Can anyone really answer that?

Fact is, we are learning to objectify each other, yes, men and women, not just men. In a world where we only see human beings as something that can satisfy our desires, how then do we function as a society? In a world where kids grow up as sex crazed animals, what sort of leaders are we producing? Porn crosses all sorts of boundaries and the more you indulge, the more of it you want and soon watching behind a TV screen or monitor isn’t enough and you want to experiment. And even that ceases to be enough and you start crossing boundaries in relationships. A few years ago, there were news reports of kids dying because they were choking themselves during sex. Where did they learn to do these things??? Marriages are breaking down, Congress men are tweeting nude photos of themselves, Sexual violence and perversions are rampant, we are a society destroying ourselves and refusing to protect the most vulnerable. I have to say the fairy tale believing adults (I do not in anyway think God is a fairy tale and totally believe in Him), are right in their assessment of porn.


Why I refuse to support Compassion and other similar ministries

Controversial I know, but it seems I’m always in a controversial place. From the post you can tell that I don’t support aid agencies. I used to but not anymore. I’ve even sponsored a child with compassion before but canceled the sponsorship because I had to reduce my working hours and wasn’t going to manage the expense. However that is not the reason I do not support aid agencies. I should state that I do believe Compassion and some of the other organisations are doing an honourable job and that this post is by no means an attack on them.

The year I moved to Perth I saw a very interesting advert on TV, I can’t remember for sure but I think it was a save the children ad (Emphasis on Not sure), on helping a village in Zambia get clean water and what was annoying about the ad was that it showed a Masai man getting water out of a dirty well. It was definitely not a Compassion or World Vision ad. The truth is, Zambia has no Masai tribes…None! In fact there has only been an influx of Masai men recently, who happen to be mostly illegal immigrants, mostly coming to work as hair dressers. They do not have villages in Zambia. My question is, if you are out to help the Zambian people, why not show us the need that’s there? Or is it a case of we are all African anyway so it doesn’t really matter? A quick search in google and you can find out that the Masai are found in Tanzania and Kenya. I will not support an organisation that misleads people to get funds. Yes, Australian’s probably won’t realise the error, but as a sign of respect for the people you’re claiming to help and care for, put out right and accurate information.

That is a minor reason for my not rallying behind Aid agencies. The other issue I have is aid in general. While people are genuinely trying to help, I believe that, (and I speak for my country and won’t speak for others) there is a need for people within our communities to rise up and change the landscape of our country. I believe in giving short-term aid, what I don’t agree with is aid being given over extended periods of time because I am of the opinion that people stop fighting to improve their lives if what they need is provided for them. All the great economies of the world were built on adversity and hard work and as a people, our discomfort should cause us to want to do better.

The fact that Zambia is ridden with malaria should cause Zambians to get into research and find a way to eradicate it…not us depending on outsiders to provide us with the means to eradicate it at prices that we can’t afford. Our country is full of resources. We have a very good climate and rain comes every year, but do we capitalise on it? No…Our people are still living in poverty. I don’t want it to sound like I’m blaming aid for our failures, I just believe that unless we fight for the change we need, the same cycles will continue and only we can truly determine what we want. So at the end of the day, I do support honourable agencies like Compassion but on a different level. We need to rise up and change what we want changed.

Migrants got talent 2013

I recently entered a competition called Migrants got talent (MGT), which is held every year in Perth, Western Australia. Made it to the top 3 and this is the poem that got me to the top 3.

It’s a poem about a woman who I spent a lot of my life with. She was a beautiful woman. She was a daughter, sister, mother, grandmother and great-grandmother and friend. As MGT finale was a just a couple of weeks after her death, and a day before mother’s day, I decided the poem would be a great tribute to the woman who was Bwalya Nelson Nyirenda. Her death has been the hardest experience this far.

The poem I performed in the top 3 is this one The volume is low because had to do it without a mic so if you put the volume up, should be able to hear.

As for the competition, the lovely Miss Ruth Kulaisi won the competition and I believe everyone who took part enjoyed it a lot and we made new friends and it was a place where different people where helping each other out and trying to make sure the other person’s act worked. It was just a lovely experience, with lovely people and I learnt a lot and my confidence levels just went North. I was humbled, and made more aware of this gift that I have been given. It truly is a gift because for me Poetry isn’t something I learnt or can force out of myself. I’m realising more and more that I can touch people with this gift in ways I never thought possible and God can be glorified through it. It is not something to use to make myself feel better than others or make others feel less but it should lift people to where they can be.

I never thought I would ever be on a stage performing poetry and yet here I am. Nothing that day went according to plan! gets you to a point where you laugh despite the chaos! and possibly in spite of it…lol…it was fun! I managed to leave out one line in each poem and the performances weren’t as good as I would have liked but people were moved and it was a great improvement from my first poetry slam. I got to stand on a stage with people with massive voices, great dancing ability and kindness beyond measure and got leadership training. It  was beautiful…Really beautiful.

I will post details for anyone interested in taking part in the next one whenever that will be. For anyone interested in helping out the Metropolitan Migrants Resource Centre or If you are a migrant living in Western Australia, feel free to visit their website at http://www.mmrcwa.org.au/ and check out what they are up to and whatever help they could offer or you could offer the community.